“As much as we need to be experts in the space of marketing or selling or coaching or leading. We also need to be experts at ourselves so that we can understand what we need. Right? Because ultimately, we are the driver, we’re the conductor, we’re the architect, we’re the blueprints – we are everything that we are building. And so if we’re not deeply becoming an expert in ourselves, than we are at such risk for self-abandonment.”

(On understanding trauma responses): “Being able to look into [that] requires understanding ourselves, knowing ourselves, listening to ourselves, hearing ourselves, having patience in ourselves the way that we would with anybody that we’re in love with or want to have a relationship with.”

“There is huge a fear around, ‘if I acknowledge this, I will become it.’”

“Our conscious energy is not the same as our unconscious energy. And the things that we avoid, are actually receiving a lot more energy to keep them repressed than if we just look at them, excavate them, heal them, work through them – and then we actually have a f**k-ton of energy that we get to put towards our vision.”

“Everything that you do – you’re doing on behalf of yourself.”

“Once you get comfortable with this kind of inner-work – shadow-integration, inner-child work – resistance becomes just meeting another part of yourself. Right? It doesn’t become this thing that you have to fight, because the fight is over. It’s really like ‘Oh. Another part of me needs me. How do I show this aspect – First of all, how do I understand it? And then, how do I get it on board in a healthy way.”

(On the benefits of understanding shadow work): “I’m leaning into a path that I’m forging. And, that’s going to come with weeds, and that’s going to come with branches and that’s going to come with a lot of stuff that, I’m going to have to, like, move out of the way.”

“A lot of repression, is lack of expression.”

“We tend to want to “logic” our way out of any issues. A lot of the time, overthinking is also a trauma response. Right? Like, we were taught as children, it might not be safe for us to have an emotional experience. And, if you grew up in an area or a community, or a family in which emotional expression wasn’t prioritized or even had space made for it. A lot of the time over-thinking, is the brain trying to do the body’s job.”

“We are walking permission slips. The extent to which we are giving permission to others, is the extent to which we’ve given permission to ourselves.”